* you are NOT alone
* you ARE important
* it’s OK to be angry
* you did NOT cause or perpetuate the addiction
* their addiction is NOT your fault
* we are ALL enablers because of love, NOT because we are wrong or bad people
* you DO have the choice to stop enabling and accept that you are NOT wrong or unloving for doing so
* we go through the stages of grief when dealing with a loved one’s addiction
* we can use al-anon, counseling, holistic healing, journaling, drumming, support groups, anything and everything that helps us deal with our new situation
* crying IS healing!
* loving the addict does NOT mean that you have to like or accept the destructive addictive behavior
* loving the person despite the addiction IS normal and is NOT wrong
* it is OK and healthy to put yourself first
* it is OK to take care of yourself and say “NO MORE” to the loved ones destructive behavior